LIFE OUT LOUD
I have been recently going through a slew of old photos, calendars, year books, memory boxes, you name it and it has surprisingly brought up some deep compassion for my younger self. You know that feeling when you take a step back into how you felt in certain moments of your life? These were the moments I've been connecting to.
While I've explored some personal work with my younger self, as guided by dear mentors, this particular exercise of "tidying up" 3 copies of the same disposable camera photo, mini wallet photos of my middle school crushes and spring break memorabilia, I felt an overwhelming sense of compassion for the girl I was at those moments.
It got me to thinking, if I could, what are some things I'd tell my younger self? Many different things have come to mind, but five things specifically keep coming up.
1. Make your own decisions.
Looking back, I feel like more often than not, I was worrying about what other people thought of me and if I was going to fit in. I worried if my clothes would impress the kids at my new school, if anyone would notice my weight, if someone was talking about me behind my back... the list of worries go on. Many times this swayed the decisions I made.
Dear Bailey - Do what you want. Follow your heart, do what you love and lead your own life. You are the only one who will be there with you through it all. Don't let other people make decisions for you or pressure you into something you don't believe in.
2. You can do hard things.
I remember many times when things got hard and I didn't feel like I knew the answers, so I'd quit. Even if I loved what I was doing, it seemed easier to quit. I quit cheerleading, tap dancing, basketball, track & field, the list goes on. This is no way to experience the fear - instead I ran (hard and fast) from it all.
Dear Bailey - See the fear in front of you? Move through it. You will make it through this because you are far stronger than you give yourself credit for. You can do hard things. Believe in yourself and know that your growth and strength will meet you on the other side.
3. Be grateful for what you have.
I know for certain that I took many of my experiences, my health and privileges for granted. It wasn't until MUCH later in life that I have realized the power of gratitude.
Dear Bailey - Take time to relax and reflect, every day. One the things that you are grateful for and allow yourself to feel the gratitude in your heart and in your body. This will forever change your outlook on life.
4. Cherish your healthy relationships.
I see, as an adult, that it takes far more effort to build relationships than it did during my school years. I also know that the people in my life, now, are here with great purpose and because I want them to be.
Dear Bailey - Only let people into your life who lift you up, who are cheering you on and who believe in you. All the others will find their own path. And the people who you choose to keep in your life, let them know often just how much they mean to you.
5. You are loved, more than enough and extremely special, JUST as you are.
Dear Bailey - You are loved, more than enough and extremely special, JUST as you are.
Bailey (33 years old)
Alright friends, this is literally the EASIEST laundry soap recipe to make and it lasts a long time! I love that there are simple, clean and effective ingredients that get out the deepest layers of snot and dirt from #toddlers.
1 cup Castile soap
1 cup baking soda
1/3 cup coarse salt
20 drops essential oils (I love On Guard + Citrus Bliss)
7.5 quarts of hot water
Whisk all ingredients together in bucket
Pour into storage containers
Use about 1/2 c per load
Shake & Wash
*I like to keep a shakeable juice container as my "active" container and then I store the remainder in glass covered containers; original recipe courtesy of HOL:FIT
What does it mean to live your legacy? It's special, unique and different for each of us, but as I've come to realize there are ways we can more consciously go through our days with this in mind. I often ask myself, "how do I wish to show up in this world?"
You know the people in your life who leave an imprint? The ones who lead by example. The people who inspire you, make you feel good and hold a special energy when they walk into the room. These are those living their legacy. It's easy to get caught up in the details, to feel stuck, to think small. But it's in moments when we dream BIG and when we tap into what's greater than ourselves that the clarity emerges. The inspiration surrounds us and the momentum draws us forward.
So as the saying goes from Ms. Maya Angelou, "At the end of the day people won't remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel."
After having just lost my close grandfather, who lived his legacy for 97 years, I've been in a state of deep reflection. Curious about what it is about him that left such an imprint on not only my own heart, but so so many others. What it is about him that I remember most, admire most and hold with me the most. He was strong willed, quick witted and loving until the end and for that I know to be what he leaves behind.
Why think about what you want to leave behind? Because it's been proven to impact the here and now in yourself and in your relationships.
Living your own legacy gives you strength. When you believe in something greater and larger than yourself, you are stronger with that than you are alone. When facing the doubts, fears or uncertainties, your strength, belief and trust in that greater power pulls you through.
Living your own legacy gives you a solid ground to stand on. This connection and sense of grounding gives you great strength and purpose. Connection and belonging contributes towards your overall well being and happiness.
Living your own legacy provides you with clarity and direction. Your own clarity guides your decisions and your choices. This is something we all could use a little support with, right? We know that change is the only constant and when there is clarity and direction the obstacles act more as detours in the right direction. We give ourselves a little more grace and face each situation with a little more kindness.
So, how are you stepping into the day today? Or better yet, how do you want people to remember you?
FRUIT + VEGGIE WASH
Whether you choose to follow the Dirty Dozen when buying your produce or not, there are many different things your fruits and veggies can pick up from farm to table. Pesticide residues, toxins, insecticides and fungicides are all things I assume you don't want to consume with your food. This super simple wash/soak is a favorite of mine, mostly because you can SEE the results, which is instant satisfaction in my book.
2-3 drops dōTERRA Lemon Essential Oil
Metal or Glass Mixing Bowl
Fill bowl with the produce you're going to prepare
Add 2-3 drops of Lemon
Cover with water
Soak for 5-10 minutes
Remove produce from the water bath and rinse in a colander
*Lemon oil is used for its natural cleansing properties and also because it also cuts through the wax layer that is sprayed onto many different fruits and vegetables to give them that shine and shimmer
But that doesn't mean you need to start over, or change who you are...
You can start exactly where you are, and be exactly who you are...
Healing will always be non-linear,
The mistakes you've made, will only lead you to growth.
So whatever pressure is looming over you,
Don't let it fool you into thinking you're not enough.
You are MORE than enough, just are you are.
-inspiration from on being in your body
Happy New Year, Happy Holidays and Cheers to Finding What Inspires You Each Day!
Whether diffusing oils in the air or using them in a spray, using essential oils aromatically can help to uplift your mood and emotional response, while also cleansing the air. I love this blend for the New Year, especially! Want to sample it? I'll be using this blend in my studio classes all month long!
3 drops dōTERRA Lavender Essential Oil
3 drops dōTERRA Motivate Essential Oil
3 drops dōTERRA Wild Orange Essential Oil
Combine all oils in your diffuser
Combine oils and water into a 2-4oz glass spray bottle
Shake & Spray
You have taught me ________________
You have opened ___________________
I am celebrating ____________________
I've shared before, but 2018 has been a year of personal discovery, change and peeling back layers. It has opened up new discoveries and strengths within me that I hadn't had the willingness to access in the past. I am celebrating the courage and openness it has taken to seek out what I needed. While the journey is never truly "complete", I am so grateful to Graham for being by my side through it and for the excitement of what lies ahead. I rested into the hands of powerful mentors around me (thank you Leslie Huddart and Jenny Glick) and am thankful that I did.
A wise poet and author, Mark Nepo, said "Whatever it is that opens us is never as important as what is opens". Powerful perspective, right? And how many of us have experienced this? So I'm curious, what are you celebrating this year? What is it that has opened up?
Let's step out of 2018 and into 2019 with CELEBRATION of what the past year has brought us. In closing from this newsletter and from 2018, "What are you willing to give up, in order to become who you really need to be?" - Elizabeth Gilbert
FUMIGATION CLEANING SPRAY
I'm a major fan of easy, simple cleaning tools. And while I use the On Guard Cleaner Concentrate throughout our home on the daily, I stumbled upon this deep clean recipe (plus a few tweaks). The original recipe calls for Dawn dish soap, but in an effort to remove fragrance, sulfates (SLS/SLES), parabens and other toxic ingredients from my home, I opt for Honest brand dish soap. I also added dōTERRA Lemon Essential Oil because it's naturally anti-viral and anti-fungal.
When my little petri dishes bring home all the funky stuff, I'm wiping down every surface with this combo.
1/2 c. White Vinegar
1/2 c. Honest Free & Clear Dish Soap
15 drops dōTERRA Lemon Essential Oil
8 or 16 oz. Glass Spray Bottle
Place the vinegar in a measuring cup and warm in microwave
Add dish soap to warmed vinegar in spray bottle
Add essential oils
Shake & spray down
**you only need to warm the vinegar when mixing with the soap, not every time
Your alarm rings and what's the first thing you do?
Check your email? Run through your to-do list? Hit the snooze button until the absolute last possible second? What if I told you that your morning is sacred and it has the ability to impact your entire day ahead? Would you change anything about your routine?
I have read time and time again that a common thread amongst successful leaders, entrepreneurs and influencers is a consistent morning routine. While we may not all be striving to be the Oprah's of the world, there is value in creating consistency and setting intention.
So maybe you don't classify yourself as a "morning person", but what if you took just a few small steps to invite a little more intention into your day? I speak to this practice because it is close to my heart. Don't get me wrong, I have fallen off the wagon many times... be it because I've been up all night with a newborn or because I simply didn't make it a priority. But every time I fall off, I notice it in a major way. So I choose to pick it back up and I commit to it again and again. What I've learned is that it's not about perfection, but instead it's about practice.
1. Write a gratitude list - write down at least three things that you are grateful for. Whether you use a dedicated Gratitude Journal or a notebook, getting your thoughts down on paper and processed through your brain can shift your outlook on the day ahead. You're beginning from a place of gratitude within your heart and your body.
2. "I AM" statements - write down 30-50 (yes 50) "I AM..." statements and keep them by your bedside. Each morning, pick them up and read them to yourself (especially on the grumpy days). These statements can be ever changing, based on what you're personally going through, but let them be powerful affirmations. "I am open. I am willing. I am learning to listen to what I need deep down..." etc.
3. Move your body - I love to go through a gentle sequence to wake my body up, while still lying in bed. Here is an example, but choose any movement that works in your body, to get the blood flowing and circulation active:
4. Avoid technology - REALLY avoid it for at least 30 minutes. Give your brain and your body a chance to wake up, before introducing blue light and technology. This not only allows you to stick to your morning practice, but also lets you intentionally move into your day without distraction of email, social media or the news.
5. Meditate & Breathe - I have recently been practicing Kapalabhati Pranayama for 3 minutes each morning before meditating. It's invigorating and warming first thing, which I love. Morning is a sacred time for meditation. Your mind has been influenced by very little and is still quiet from rest. You can choose to sit in silence or in a guided meditation - anything that gives you an opportunity to drop into presence.
So, are you open to creating an intentional morning practice? I'd love to hear how your morning begins! Small steps, consistently.
STUFFY NOSE STEAM CUP
We're deep into the season of runny noses and *snot*. This steam cup is a favorite in our house to help clear the sinuses and any funk living inside.
1 drop dōTERRA Oregano Essential Oil
1 drop dōTERRA Frankincense Essential Oil
1 drop dōTERRA Peppermint Essential Oil
1 drop dōTERRA Lemon Essential Oil
1 drop dōTERRA Melaleuca Essential Oil
Place the essential oils and boiling water into coffee mug
Place a towel over your eyes
Lean over the coffee mug
Breathe in the steam for a few minutes
Repeat throughout the day as needed
**for little ones: eliminate Oregano, place oils into a diffuser in your bathroom, seal the door with a towel, turn on the hot water in the shower and sit on the floor of the bathroom for 10-15 min. in the steam
You know that feeling when you step into a new situation, experience or even relationship and you feel really confident, connected and grounded? Maybe you planned for the moment, did all of your homework, vetted out all possible outcomes, thought about it, meditated on it, prayed about it, all ahead of time. READY FOR ANYTHING, RIGHT?
What about the times when you're unexpectedly faced with a new experience, transition or change? When you have to make a quick (important) decision that you weren't quite prepared for or you're faced with unexpected conflict? Does your confidence and connection slip away? I bet it's still there - it's just not in our nature to tap into it, when we aren't expecting to. Our nature is to protect, to defend or to panic.
But what if there was a way to train our bodies to come back to it? To feel our feet beneath us, the vitality in our breath, our body and to tap into what our intention is for the quick moment ahead. This is what I'm referring to as ANCHORING first. When the house is a mess, the kids are screaming and crying and your patience is nearly non-existent - anchor first, then set an intention. I promise you, it can wait. The 30 seconds it takes you to anchor first, then to set an intention will be well worth it.
In yoga, we speak a lot to reACTING vs. reSPONDING and the importance of doing so with consciousness - which I stand behind. But this philosophy allows us to also bring our body into the picture. To feel connected, confident and grounded before choosing how to show up in the situation. AND it takes awareness and practice - you will fail (I'll be the first to admit that I have many times). But it gets easier. We are re-training our bodies to feel safe, when we are safe. To feel connection, rather than threat. And to chose to move with our own intention first.
In doing so, how can you symbolize to your body that you are ANCHORING? I chose to place a hand on my heart as my body's reminder.... OK, we're going to anchor first. You can feel your pelvis, rock your feet back and forth, a hand on your belly - whatever it takes, it'syour practice. When I feel my breath, then I know I'm present and I remind myself of my intention.
A little HEART CHECK - "Bailey, are you with me? I'm with you. I am you and you are me".
Any situation - big or small - is worth your time, your efforts, your energy and your attention, if you're choosing to go through it. Are you willing to try?
PS - you are MORE than enough
CRACKED HEEL HACK!
Yoga teachers & barefoot walkers pay attention! Have you ever gone to get a luxe pedicure and leave still feeling scratchy in your heels? I'm right there with you! I was about to order yet ANOTHER foot cream/device to help cure this, but I decided to try one more thing (and I'm pumped I did!).
Introducing... BeautyCounter Cleansing Balm. It's commonly used as an oil-based face cleanser, but I have discovered it to also be INCREDIBLE for cracked heels! Rub a pea-sized amount in between your fingers to warm up and then rub on your feet - do. not. rinse. off. Want to make it super special?Put on socks while it soaks in. No chemicals, no worry about harmful ingredients and it's amazing!
I'd show you my heels, but assume you can take my word for it!
to try it for yourself (the container lasts forever!):
SAFE SWAP :: HOME FRAGRANCE
SWAP chemicals & fragrance FOR essential oils
We ALL want our environment to smell wonderful and welcoming! And as we head into the holiday seasons where there might be more gatherings and hosted events, it's just as important to SAFELY get your home smelling..."home-y". Fragrance and chemicals in traditional candles can be very harmful for our bodies and respiratory systems. An easy way to swap is to diffuse essential oils! They help to purify the air AND they don't contain artificial fragrance and chemicals in their purest form. A few of my FAVORITES are below:
runs up to 10 hours
great for up to 540 sq. ft.
(BONUS: ANY 200pv order with doTERRA this month gets a FREE car diffuser and 3 other oils! https://www.mindfulandessential.com/getstarted-773347.html)
UNOFFICIAL ANTHROPOLOGIE BLEND
3 drops Siberian Fir
3 drops Grapefruit
2 drops Peppermint
4 drops Wild Orange
You know those moments when your yoga practice shows up for you off your mat and outside of the yoga studio? They're pretty magical, right? Or the moments when you look back on a day that felt insane and out of control and you see that you made it out alive - you survived? All of those moments happen on purpose.
I've been working through a lot of inner healing over the last year and it's in the moments when I feel really vulnerable, exposed or defeated as a mama, that I am trying to kinder to myself and remember that everything will be OK. That I will survive, I am capable and I am strong. But I notice that it's a constant practice and the more I practice, the more it is accessible. It's in the moments when my toddler boys are screaming and crying and hitting one another that I am reminded that I can set the tone for the outcome of this situation. Because Rumi was right... "What you seek is seeking you." I certainly don't always get it right... trust me. I scream and yell and then feel guilty, but justified. I am a work in progress, as we all are. But the practice of giving yourself grace and compassion (even when emotions are running high) can get easier. It's a deep, personal and internal practice of YOU. And YOU are beautiful and human.
What are you practicing with yourself?
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GREEN SELF CARE :: IMMUNE BOOST
As we head into the winter months, it's important to support our immune systems, so they can fight off the things we get exposed to. This Immune Boost blend is a daily MUST in our home (also awesome for travel). It's a super simple recipe with mega benefits!
Fractionated Coconut Oil
20 drops dōTERRA On Guard Essential Oil
10ml glass rollerbottle
Fill the rollerbottle with 10 drops On Guard
Top off with Fractionated Coconut Oil
Roll on your feet and spine everyday (and especially when sick)
I just celebrated a birthday this past week (thank you for all the wishes!) and I have to say... birthdays are my favorite! Growing up, and still to this day, my mom has always made a BIG DEAL about birthdays. She has a way to make you feel so special and so loved on your special day. Well, because it's your special day of course!
I remember many birthday mornings, coming down from my bedroom, to a house full of decorations and balloons. Special breakfasts and presents. Lots of love and always cheesecake. It was always special. Thanks mom!
Year 32 was a year of growth and healing. It came on heavy and strong and it was necessary work. So I am taking this philosophy into year 33, with a little less decorations and cheesecake, but all of the celebration. In an effort to give myself the internal praise that I often shy away from and to CELEBRATE what I am becoming, being and doing.
So, how will you celebrate YOU today?
I just returned from a family trip out to Arizona to visit my 97 year old grandpa. I never really thought much about it, but over the years, it's become apparent that getting older is a true stage in life, as is infancy, childhood and adolescence. Maybe it's become more apparent because we're lucky that he hasn't had any major health issues or concerns along the way... he's just getting older at this stage in the game. It's sparked a lot of curiosity within me to understand what is a common thread in my Papa that has allowed him to live this life for so long? And also, how can I be more present in my current life stage?
Just as everyone begins at the infant stage, goes through childhood and adolescence... everyone gets older. But it seems that there is this muddy, unclear and undefined period in life between 25-80ish. Where you might get married, might grow with your career, might have children, might move around and our stages in life get a little more variated. And trust me, I certainly see a difference in my 20-something self and my 30-something self. And then once you get to the "wisdom" years of 80+, most are in a similar stage again. In my short 32 years, I've been through many stages and i'm also aware that there are many still ahead of me. So when I'm 97, what could be my common thread? Food for thought, I suppose.
One thing I do know is that we are surrounded by stories of dear ones or acquaintances or family of friends or friends of friends who have suffered. Who have been hit with disease or illness and it's saddening. It hurts the heart to hear these stories. Maybe this is the predetermined life stage? That I'm not sure of. This is, though, a huge reason that I am so passionate about empowering and helping other people to make safer choices in health and personal care. To hopefully help to eliminate these stories currently and in future (and innocent) generations.
But back to the WHY and HOW and the common thread. What I see in my Papa is his constant curiosity and sharpness - through all life stages. He has the most brilliant memory of anyone I know - reciting stories that date back to the 1940s and 50s in full and colorful detail. His stories inspire me - to be thoughtful, present and constantly curious.
While I will never fully know what it is about him and his life stage, I do know that I am continually inspired by him, his wisdom and his curiosity.
What has inspired you most recently?
SAFE SWAP :: SUDS
SWAP OUT Sodium Lauryl Sulfate and Sodium Laureth Sulfate
(SLS and SLES)
These specific ingredients show up most commonly in things with SUDS. From hand soap, to dish soap, to face wash and shampoo, they're found in many different places! I recently did a FB LIVE on the importance of avoiding these ingredients - in short though, they have links to being endocrine disruptors (aka your hormones) and irritate most skin.
My new favorite (free of SLS and SLES) shampoo is the BeautyCounter Daily Shampoo. I use just a quarter-sized amount 2-3/week when I wash my hair and it feels great!
Become a label reader. It's pretty cool.
If you haven't purchased through BeautyCounter before, I offer 10% back to all first-time customers, along with the free 60-day return policy.
GREEN SELF CARE :: DETOX BATH
Need a simple, skin soothing self care practice? Baths! And if not for yourself, then add this for your little ones (and cut the recipe in half). Epsom salts help with muscle pain and increase circulation, while baking soda is a natural cleanser, skin soother (including sunburn) and helps balance ph levels. Cedarwood is my favorite this summer because of it's natural antiviral and calming properties (it's also great for bugs!)!
1 cup epsom salts
¼ cup baking soda
4 drops Cedarwood Essential Oil
Fill cup with epsom salt and baking soda.
Add drops of cedarwood directly to mixture before adding to warm bath water
(this helps the oil disperse throughout the water)
Soak for 15-20 min & Relax
I've been doing a lot of dreaming lately and getting curious, exploring what it would be like if... (fill in the blank) and asking a lot from the Universe.
I want to know what it's like to feel my vital strength in the world. And I want the Universe to show me in a way that I can understand... because at the moment it feels massive and scary. I'm still trying to figure out how that will show up - haha.
This process has felt new (and uncomfortable). I am one to typically feel like I need to have everything figured out and planned and identified ahead of time. But at this moment in life, I'm feeling drawn to getting really curious. To understanding where my limiting beliefs show up and sitting with it to understand WHY. There is a vulnerability that shows up with curiosity. With being with the unknown and feeling ok with going through the process.
I want to know what it's like to not worry about having all the answers. I want to know what it's like to feel my uncertainty and to follow my deepest intuition.
Physically, I feel the work behind my heart.
This place that represents trust and support and guidance. It's a beautiful thing to observe and to sit with the unknown. So I'll be here, getting curious, dreaming big and soaking it in along the way. Would you join me?
SAFE SWAP :: SUNSCREEN
SWAP oxybenzone and octinoxate FOR zinc oxide
Hawaii has banned these ingredients for damage to the coral reefs, along with potential harm on the body. My favorite sunscreen this season is Countersun from BeautyCounter, and there many other great ones out there!
Just read the labels.
If you haven't purchased through BeautyCounter before, I offer 10% back to all first time customers, along with the free 60-day return policy.
GREEN CLEANING :: TOILET BOMBS
These little toilet cleaning bombs are great to fizz up the toilet before having people over, or while cleaning. They're super simple to make with super simple ingredients!
1 cup baking soda
¼ cup citric acid
1½ tablespoon unscented castile soap
15 drops Purify Cleansing Blend
Stir the baking soda and citric acid together until combined.
Slowly stir in the castile soap and Purify. Stir until the mixture resembles wet sand.
Pack the pod mixture into a mold and let dry at least four hours. If the mixture expands above the mold, firmly press back down.
Once dry, remove the pods from the mold and store in an airtight container.
To use, simply drop one into the toilet, wait until the pod stops bubbling, and scrub away!